On The Simpsons, Homer sings "I could love [e.g., have sex with] about a million girls."
A million?
Assuming a 50-year sexual life, that's 20,000 per year, or 384 per week.
That's a lot more than gay men could ever hope for.
If you spent every waking hour in the bath house, and if you were extremely attractive, you might get as many as 10 partners per day, or 70 per week.
But in real life, people have other interests and obligations, they don't have a superheroic physique, and they're usually involved in relationships that require monogamy or "sharing." They might average 10 partners per year.
Or only one.
Homer goes on to list the various ethnic groups he is interested in: "I could love a Chinese girl, an Eskimo, a Finn. I could dig a Deutschland chick...."
That sounds more promising. There are only about 6,000 ethnic groups in the world. Could you "love" someone from each one?
For the purpose of this study, "loving" will be defined as "an event in which you see your partner naked in a private setting." Clubs, bath houses, nude beaches, and dates that don't end with a bedroom won't count.
An "ethnic group" will be defined as a group identified by a distinct language and culture. Generic white Americans and African-Americans don't count.
After careful calculation and checking my journals, I find that I've "loved" guys from 41 identifiable ethnic groups.
18 European
8 East or Southeast Asian
5 African
5 Latin American
2 Middle Eastern
2 Native American
1 South Asian
5,959 to go.
If I really want to sample the vast variety of masculine beauty in the world, there are a few left on my bucket list:
1. Faeroese: from the Faeroe Islands far to the north of Britain (population 44,000). Like the famous swimmer Pal Joensen (top photo).
2. Yakut: a Turkic-speaking people of Siberia. There are 478,000 Yakut speakers, including 10,000 in the United States, so there's hope (second photo: a Yakut wrestler).
3.Ainu (left): the original inhabitants of Japan were not of Asian ethnicity, and their language was like no other in the world (there are only about 10 native speakers left). They liked beards so much that the women got their chins tattooed to make it seem like they had beards, too. Today there are an estimated 25,000-100,000 Ainu in northern Japan. The most famous is Oki, who performs electro-pop versions of traditional songs with his Oki Dub Ainu Band.
4. Chukchi: from remote northeastern Siberia, near the Bering Sea. The 16,000 Chukchi speak a Paleo-Siberian language. Their shamans change from male to female when they travel to the spirit world.
5. Hawaiian (left): 400,000 people claim to be part Hawaiian, but only 140,000 claim to be Hawaiian alone, and only about 2,000 speak the language.
6. Jivaro (left): about 20,000 of the former head-hunters, divided into several different tribes in the western Amazon region of South America, mostly in Ecuador, Peru, and Colombia. I visited Colombia, but didn't meet any Jivaros.
7. Tuareg: there are about 1.2 million Tuaregs, a nomadic people of the Sahara, mostly in Niger and Chad. Formerly called "the blue people" because the blue dye in the men's turbans rubbed off onto their faces, they speak a Berber language.
8. The Mbuti (left): one of several "pygmy" tribes in the Congo, there are about 30,000 Mbuti, most still living as traditional hunter-gatherers. The men have an average height of 4'9." Sounds like my kind of guys.
9. Greenlander: The northernmost country on Earth, Greenland has a population of about 60,000, most of whom are Greenland Inuit.
10. Aboriginal Australians: The original inhabitants of Australia have the oldest cultural traditions in the world. They have legends about walking to Australia over a land bridge that hasn't existed for 14,000 years! There are about 600,000, divided into many different tribes with distinctive languages and customs. Ritualized same-sex behavior is commonplace as an initiation rite.
I visited Australia 20 years ago, but didn't get a chance to meet -- or "love" -- any aboriginal guys.
But there's always next year. Maybe these guys are on Facebook.
See also: The Day I Turned Japanese
Tales of West Hollywood
Wednesday, June 17, 2026
Wednesday, June 10, 2026
"My Uncle's Queer": My Nephew's Transformation from Choir Boy to Punk Rocker
Rock Island, December 1999
I am in grad school in New York, visiting Rock Island and Indianapolis for the holidays, staying with my brother Kenny in his rundown, rambling house downtown. The house is crowded with Kenny's children and stepchildren, plus a huge assortment of dogs, cats, hamsters, and parrots.
It's easy to miss Joel, Ken's youngest son, in the crowd: he's thirteen years old, short, slim, a quiet, polite Johnny Nazarene. But a talented singer: he's toured in Iowa, Minnesota, and Sweden with the Moline Boys' Choir. We go to their Christmas concert and hear his solo in "Come, O Come Emmanuel."
December 2000
Yuri and I are visiting Rock Island for the holidays. My family practices a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, so they don't know if we're friends or boyfriends or lovers. Most of them probably don't even know that we are gay. But Joel figures it out. Although he claims to be straight, he asked us to teach him and his friend Max "how gay guys have sex."
Yuri and I teach him about gay kissing.

August 2001
I've completed my Ph.D., and I'm visiting Rock Island for a few days just before moving to Florida. Joel is a cute 15 year old with short black hair, pale skin, and nicely rounded biceps. Nazarenes aren't allowed to listen to "the devil's music," basically anything with guitars, but he likes Weezer, Nickelback, and other groups that I never heard of, but sound loud.
Oddly, ,my brother doesn't forbid it. "It's his life," Kenny says. "If he likes the devil's music, that's on him."
Joel asks why I didn't bring Yuri. "You guys are, like, hot together, aren't you?"
Ken glares at me, accusing me of outing myself to his son. "Boomer has a lot of friends, all kinds," he explains. "Black, white, Jewish, Muslim, gay, straight. He's so liberal, it hurts."
December 2001
It's only been six months since I saw him last, and the transformation is amazing. Joel is a surly 15-year old, dressed all in black, who protests the "capitalist spending frenzy" of Christmas. He spends most of his time in his room, listening to metal music. He emerges to eat a bowl of Lucky Charms instead of Christmas dinner, and to ask "So, Uncle Gizmo, are the beach boys hot down in Florida? I bet you get tons of action."
In front of the whole family, including relatives I wasn't out to!
"Um...well, I do ok," I stammer.
Later I ask Kenny if Joel is gay.
"Nope, nope, nope!" Kenny exclaims. "He's totally hot for girls. He's got a little gay friend, but that doesn't mean a thing."
June 2003
Maybe Kenny is angry about my accidental outing, or maybe he's just busy, but he doesn't invite me to Christmas in Rock Island in 2002. I don't visit again until June 2003.
Joel has just turned 17. He has green hair, earrings, and a pierced lip. He gives me a hug and calls me "Beach Boy,"
He just got back from Hardcore Fest, where he heard Walls Of Jericho, Suicide Note, Saved By Grace, As We Speak, Provoke, How It Ends, Devastator, Preacher Gone To Texas, Blood In Blood Out, Too Pure To Die, For Death or Glory, Wings Of Scarlet, Uphold, Begin Again, King of Clubz, Pound for Pound, Undo Tomorrow, Haunted Life and Butt Lynt.
"Sounds like a great lineup," I tell him. I've never heard of any of them.
And naturally he's the lead vocalist in his own punk band, The Dead Eunuchs.
June 2004
Joel has a bright red mohawk and a nose ring. The Dead Eunuchs has been performing all over the Quad Cities. Tonight they have a gig at the Rusty Nail in Davenport.
"You should come," Joel says. "We play a great set."
Well -- I'm not much for punk music in noisy heterosexual bars. "I don't think..."
"You'll like one of our songs. It's called 'My Uncle's Queer.'"
My face begins to burn. Is Joel outing me in front of roomsful of drunken heterosexual rednecks? "Queer? Sounds homophobic!" I exclaim.
"The Dead Eunuchs are opposed to racism, sexism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, fascism, capitalism, brutality, and the police state," Joel recites. "It's right there on our MySpace page. Come Saturday night. You'll find out."
It's a small club with a bar and grille and a little stage. About 20 people in the audience, some rednecks, but mostly bohemians of all shapes and sizes. The Dead Eunuchs, five guys in their late teens or early 20s, perform in mohawks, shirtless (nice abs), with lots of crotch-grabbing and pretending to lick each other.
Their songs are the standard punk "life is meaningless" shtick, until they come to "My Uncle's Queer."
As far as I can tell from the screeching, the lyrics are:
My uncle's queer, you heard me right!
He won't tell Dad, he's scared to fight!
Break the system, break the wall,
Press your cock against my balls.
We're all dying from the fear
Inside out, everybody's queer!
Not very complementary, but at least it's inclusive.
Guitar riff, and then the second verse:
My sister kissed a dyke for [?],
My brother sucked a stud for Jesus
We all got cocks, we all got balls,
We all got faces pressed to the wall.
I am queer! You are queer!
Hear that preacher, the world is queer!
"Nice inclusive message," I tell Joel later as he sits, shirtless and sweat-soaked, at my booth eating a hamburger. "But not entirely accurate. I've been out to your Dad since high school. He was the first one I told when I figured it out."
"The song isn't about you. It's about everybody who's afraid to be who they are."
I hesitate about asking if Joel is really "queer" or not -- it would be contrary to his message of solidarity.
And no, he never invites me to "press my cock against his balls."
I am in grad school in New York, visiting Rock Island and Indianapolis for the holidays, staying with my brother Kenny in his rundown, rambling house downtown. The house is crowded with Kenny's children and stepchildren, plus a huge assortment of dogs, cats, hamsters, and parrots.
It's easy to miss Joel, Ken's youngest son, in the crowd: he's thirteen years old, short, slim, a quiet, polite Johnny Nazarene. But a talented singer: he's toured in Iowa, Minnesota, and Sweden with the Moline Boys' Choir. We go to their Christmas concert and hear his solo in "Come, O Come Emmanuel."
December 2000
Yuri and I are visiting Rock Island for the holidays. My family practices a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, so they don't know if we're friends or boyfriends or lovers. Most of them probably don't even know that we are gay. But Joel figures it out. Although he claims to be straight, he asked us to teach him and his friend Max "how gay guys have sex."
Yuri and I teach him about gay kissing.

August 2001
I've completed my Ph.D., and I'm visiting Rock Island for a few days just before moving to Florida. Joel is a cute 15 year old with short black hair, pale skin, and nicely rounded biceps. Nazarenes aren't allowed to listen to "the devil's music," basically anything with guitars, but he likes Weezer, Nickelback, and other groups that I never heard of, but sound loud.
Oddly, ,my brother doesn't forbid it. "It's his life," Kenny says. "If he likes the devil's music, that's on him."
Joel asks why I didn't bring Yuri. "You guys are, like, hot together, aren't you?"
Ken glares at me, accusing me of outing myself to his son. "Boomer has a lot of friends, all kinds," he explains. "Black, white, Jewish, Muslim, gay, straight. He's so liberal, it hurts."
December 2001
It's only been six months since I saw him last, and the transformation is amazing. Joel is a surly 15-year old, dressed all in black, who protests the "capitalist spending frenzy" of Christmas. He spends most of his time in his room, listening to metal music. He emerges to eat a bowl of Lucky Charms instead of Christmas dinner, and to ask "So, Uncle Gizmo, are the beach boys hot down in Florida? I bet you get tons of action."
In front of the whole family, including relatives I wasn't out to!
"Um...well, I do ok," I stammer.
Later I ask Kenny if Joel is gay.
"Nope, nope, nope!" Kenny exclaims. "He's totally hot for girls. He's got a little gay friend, but that doesn't mean a thing."
June 2003Maybe Kenny is angry about my accidental outing, or maybe he's just busy, but he doesn't invite me to Christmas in Rock Island in 2002. I don't visit again until June 2003.
Joel has just turned 17. He has green hair, earrings, and a pierced lip. He gives me a hug and calls me "Beach Boy,"
He just got back from Hardcore Fest, where he heard Walls Of Jericho, Suicide Note, Saved By Grace, As We Speak, Provoke, How It Ends, Devastator, Preacher Gone To Texas, Blood In Blood Out, Too Pure To Die, For Death or Glory, Wings Of Scarlet, Uphold, Begin Again, King of Clubz, Pound for Pound, Undo Tomorrow, Haunted Life and Butt Lynt.
"Sounds like a great lineup," I tell him. I've never heard of any of them.
And naturally he's the lead vocalist in his own punk band, The Dead Eunuchs.
June 2004Joel has a bright red mohawk and a nose ring. The Dead Eunuchs has been performing all over the Quad Cities. Tonight they have a gig at the Rusty Nail in Davenport.
"You should come," Joel says. "We play a great set."
Well -- I'm not much for punk music in noisy heterosexual bars. "I don't think..."
"You'll like one of our songs. It's called 'My Uncle's Queer.'"
My face begins to burn. Is Joel outing me in front of roomsful of drunken heterosexual rednecks? "Queer? Sounds homophobic!" I exclaim.
"The Dead Eunuchs are opposed to racism, sexism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, fascism, capitalism, brutality, and the police state," Joel recites. "It's right there on our MySpace page. Come Saturday night. You'll find out."
It's a small club with a bar and grille and a little stage. About 20 people in the audience, some rednecks, but mostly bohemians of all shapes and sizes. The Dead Eunuchs, five guys in their late teens or early 20s, perform in mohawks, shirtless (nice abs), with lots of crotch-grabbing and pretending to lick each other.
Their songs are the standard punk "life is meaningless" shtick, until they come to "My Uncle's Queer."
As far as I can tell from the screeching, the lyrics are:
My uncle's queer, you heard me right!
He won't tell Dad, he's scared to fight!
Break the system, break the wall,
Press your cock against my balls.
We're all dying from the fear
Inside out, everybody's queer!
Not very complementary, but at least it's inclusive.
Guitar riff, and then the second verse:
My sister kissed a dyke for [?],My brother sucked a stud for Jesus
We all got cocks, we all got balls,
We all got faces pressed to the wall.
I am queer! You are queer!
Hear that preacher, the world is queer!
"Nice inclusive message," I tell Joel later as he sits, shirtless and sweat-soaked, at my booth eating a hamburger. "But not entirely accurate. I've been out to your Dad since high school. He was the first one I told when I figured it out."
"The song isn't about you. It's about everybody who's afraid to be who they are."
I hesitate about asking if Joel is really "queer" or not -- it would be contrary to his message of solidarity.
And no, he never invites me to "press my cock against his balls."
Monday, May 18, 2026
Billy Booth Comes Out on the Set of "The Twilight Zone"
But his favorite role, the one he would remember forever, was "Short Boy" on The Twilight Zone, when he was 11 years old.
"A Stop at Willoughby" (May 6, 1960) was one of many episodes about harried business executives who escape to what narrrator/writer Rod Serling thought of as the kinder, simpler world of the 19th century, with people riding on penny-farthings and bands playing "Beautiful Dreamer" in the park
In this case, harried ad exec Gart Williams (41-year old James Daly) escapes from his obnoxious boss and harridan wife when his commuter train makes an unexpected stop at the small town of Willoughby, July 1888.
For the rest of the episode, he tries desperately to return. Finally he succeeds. In the twist ending, it turns out that he jumped out of the train to his death, and "Willoughby and Sons" is the name of the funeral home.
Billy played one of the two barefoot boys walking toward the fishing hole, then returning to town later. The older (Butch Hengen) tells Williams that "the fish are biting." Williams says "I might go with you tomorrow."That's all: two walk-ons, shot together on a single afternoon, uncredited, no lines. But what happened after stayed with Billy forever.
After his scene, he expected someone to take the fishing pole and fish prop from his hands, but no one came. He started walking, but took a wrong turn and got lost, still dressed like Huckleberry Finn. The hard ground hurt his feet. He was getting a little worried, when suddenly Jim Daly was beside him.
"Are those real fish?" he asked, smiling
"Yep. Boy, do they smell!"
"We'd better get them back to props. Come on, I'll show you the way." Jim put his hand on his shoulder and steered him in the opposite direction, back across the Willoughby set.
Jim was very big and tall. Billy felt like a big man just walking next to him, like they were pals.
"Do you think you'd like to live in a town like Willoughby?"
"Naw -- it sounds real square. No tv, no movies, no comic books! But I liked working here. Butch is cool -- me and him, we're going to the beach tomorrow, if his Mom says it's ok.""That's fine That's all you need, really, in this life -- one special friend. They're hard to find."
"Oh, I got lots of friends."
"Sure, but do you have a special friend? Someone who makes you smile whenever you look at him, who makes you sad when you have to say goodbye." Jim was staring straight ahead, reciting as if remembering a scene. His words made Billy feel warm and happy inside. "Who you don't want to say goodbye to, ever -- you want to spend you life with him."
"That's pretty cool, Mister Daly. Is it from a movie?"
"No, it's from real life. Or at least, how I wish life could be. Maybe it will be, when you grow up."
They handed the fish and fishing pole to the prop master, who snarled "It's about time! I thought you nicked it!" Then Jim walked Billy to where his mother was waiting. They shook hands and said goodbye.
Billy never saw him again. But he remembered the warm hand on his shoulder, the distant, faraway look, the sadness.
One special friend.
Billy's next job was on an episode of The Many Loves of Dobie Gillis. Dwayne Hickman and Bob Denver were both nice to him, but the only cast member who made him smile just by looking at him was Mike Burns, a cute teenager with big muscles and a hairy chest. But Mike ignored Billy, or talked like he was just a little kid.
One special friend.
Jay North, his costar on Dennis the Menace? Nice, but not very cute.
Mickey Sholdar on The Farmer's Daughter? Cute, but not very nice.
Like many child stars, Billy found acting jobs scarce once he hit puberty. But he didn't mind: he could go to a regular school with regular kids, and do normal things like ride bikes and go to the beach. He started fantasizing about cute guys climbing into his bed, hugging and kissing him, touching him down there.
A guy from his biology class; his gym teacher; Robert Vaughn, the Man from Uncle; Mike Burns; and Jim Daly, who (in Billy's fantasy) had muscles and a hairy chest, big hands, and a gigantic penis.
Billy graduated from LaCrescenta High in 1967- and enrolled at USC. Some of his classmates were growing their hair long, smoking pot, and joining in the anti-war protests, but Billy never did. He was a good boy, quiet, respectful, studious, a square. Besides, with their long hair and beads, hippie boys looked like girls. He liked "real men," strong, masculine, powerful.Like the football jocks he invited to his dorm room to beat off while looking at Playboy. Sometimes he went down on them, but again, it was just a physical release. They were both supposed to be thinking about girls.
In 1974 Billy graduated from USC with a degree in political science. He moved to San Francisco to go to the Hastings College of Law, and met gay people for the first time. Men who acted like women, flouncing and sashaying down the street. Not a problem -- he was open-minded -- but with no connection to his life at all. Instead he started dating Kathy, a Berkeley undergrad majoring in English.
She was certainly a friend -- they had a lot of fun together. And they had sex - it was simply a matter of closing his eyes and fantasizing about a muscular guy with a hairy chest. That desire to touch her, to be touched by her, was absent, but it was probably just a childhood fantasy -- it didn't exist in the real world. Kathy must be his special friend.
In June 1977 they married and moved to Los Osos, California, in San Luis Obispo County. They bought a house near the beach. Billy started a private practice in business and real estate law, and Kathy worked on her writing. In October she announced that she was pregnant.
Billy was 28 years old, with everything he was supposed to want in life: house, job, wife, child on the way. This was the life everyone wanted.Wasn't it?
Well, wasn't it?
He had never been so miserable.
One day on a whim, he tracked down James Daly, who remembered their brief conversation 17 years ago! He got an invitation to visit.
Kathy didn't understand why he wanted to cross the country to visit someone he met once, but she wasn't about to pass up a trip to New York, so in January 1978, shortly after the New Year, they flew out to Nyack.
Daly was 59 years old, graying but still big and tall, still acting in local theater and taking the train into Manhattan every weekend. They went shopping for antiques, and walked on the beach even though it was in the 20s outside. Nearly the first thing he told them was: "I'm gay."
He grinned at their shock -- you didn't just come out to near-strangers in 1978! "For the last six months I've been telling everyone. You'd be surprised how healing it is. Such a blessing to finally end the lies."
"How long have you known?" Billy asked.
"Oh, since I was a boy. But when I was young, we thought it was a mental disorder. [My wife] Hope and I tried all sorts of therapy to 'cure' me before figuring that it was hopeless and divorcing. Even then, I stayed in the closet."
"Have you ever had a companion?" Kathy asked. "Someone to spend your life with? A special friend?"
Billy stared -- he had never used that term in front of Kathy. How did she know it?
"Lots of lovers, but I'm afraid that the happiness of a special friend has always eluded me. I think because I came out of the closet too late."
"It's never too late," Kathy said, glancing over at Billy.
They waited until their son Devon was five years old to divorce. Billy continued to live in Los Osos and practice law, stayed close to Kathy and watched Devon grow up, but he was down in Los Angeles most weekends.
He had brunch at the French Quarter. He visited the gay synagogue. He had many boyfriends and lovers, and a partner who lived with him for 12 years.Billy Booth died on December 31, 2006. His family suggests that, instead of flowers, you can best honor his memory by calling an old friend.
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