Friday, July 31, 2015
Six Naked College Boys and One Date
On surveys, only about 2% of the U.S. male population admits to being gay, and another 1% bisexual. Of course, most are leery of coming out on a survey questionnaire, and dissimulate. The actual population is probably much higher.
And I estimate that a huge proportion of the "straight" male population, about 80%, is open to sexual activity with men. .
20% are on the downlow: They are interested in relationships only with women, so they claim to be "straight," although they are attracted to both men and women. They seek out male-male action while telling their wives and girlfriends that they're out getting a loaf of bread. They're open for kissing, cuddling, reciprocation, whatever.
30% will let you watch. They aren't attracted to guys, and they don't want you to touch them, but they are willing to engage in autoerotic activity with you present, as long as you don't let on that you are interested in watching.
In fact, a major form of "male bonding" for that 30% is to invite your buddies over, watch porn or just talk about girls, and engage in autoerotic activity without letting on that you are watching each other.
I first heard of this practice when I was in graduate school at Indiana University, when a hefty Dungeons-and-Dragons player named Duane criticized The Kinsey Report (some 30 years after it was published) because 37% of male respondents stated that they had engaged in a 'homosexual' act to orgasm at some time during adulthood.
"That Kinsey had a ridiculous definition of homosexual acts!" Duane exclaimed. "It includes everything you do with other guys around, even a circle jerk!"
I didn't know what a circle jerk was.
My interested piqued, I asked, "How many buddies are with you, generally?"
"Sometimes just one, but I've been in a group of six before." He eyed me suspiciously. "Why?"
I had to find some way to get invited to one of these six-guy orgies! But of course I couldn't come out -- this was the homophobic 1980s. I figured that since Duane played Dungeons and Dragons most nights, that was where the "circle jerks" happened.
I waited a few days to alleviate suspicion, and then asked to join, offering to bring a pizza.
When I arrived, there were five college boys sitting in Duane's dorm room on the 5th floor of Eigenmann Hall. I took my place among them and scoped out the territory:
Duane: husky bear, graduate student in physics. The Dungeon Master.
Ben: cute eyeglassed graduate student in economics, new to D&D.
Scott: long haired, bearded hipster, graduate student in sociology
Andrew: blond undergrad in physics, rather husky.
His Roommate's bed:
Asher, the roommate, a rather muscular but shy grad student in math.
We played Dungeons and Dragons for awhile without comment, but when straight men get together, women invariably enter the conversation: sizes, shapes, angles, the ones they've been with, the ones they would like to be with, ones on tv. Soon the conversation became more graphic, as they tried to one-up each other with tales of the most spectacular feminine physiques they'd been with.
They were all impressed. "Wow, that must have been great!" Ben exclaimed. Apparently breast sizes to straight men are like cock sizes to the rest of us.
"Yes, they were quite...um...nice," I said. What, exactly, did straight men do with women's breasts? "I...um...felt them many times."
"Yeah, right. I bet you did more than feel them!" Duane said, nudging Ben.
"Darn right!" I wondered what they were talking about.
"We gonna talk about girls, or play Dungeons and Dragons?" Asher said, annoyed.
But once the talk of girls begins, it doesn't end. Next I brought out my secret weapon: an issue of Playboy. "I also dated a girl that looked just like her," I said, opening the centerfold. and placing it on the gaming table. "Um...she was the head cheerleader and the Homecoming Queen. I did lots of things with her breasts, too!"
By now everyone was sitting in full view of each others' crotch. Soon there was a little squirming and hiding going on. At this point the instinct was to grab Asher or Ben, sitting on either side of me, but instead I grabbed myself.
Then Scott the Hipster unzipped. "That's nothing. I bet your prom queen girlfriend would dump you in a minute if she saw this!"
It was rather unimpressive.
Soon the other guys unzipped: Duane (thick), then Ben (nice mushroom head), then Andrew (impressive Bratwurst), leaving only Asher sitting shyly, fully clothed. The conversation dimmed as each guy was immersed in his private fantasy, staring into space or at the centerfold.
I tried to stare into space, avoid the disgusting centerfold, and look at Scott and Andrew, on the opposite bed, plus cast occasional sidelong glances at Duane and Ben. And Asher, looking more and more uncomfortable.
I reached over and touched his shoulder. "You ok?"
He stared at my crotch for a moment, wide-eyed, then said "I gotta go, sorry." He brushed past me and rushed through the door.
At the end of the event, kleenixes were passed around, and the guys returned to their game without comment.
Altogether, rather unsatisfying.
"What happened last night? You didn't seem like you were having fun.".
He reddened -- apparently what happens in the circle jerk stays in the circle jerk -- but said "It was just too weird. I know you're not supposed to...you know, look, but how can you not?"
Asher was gay!
I didn't go to any more Dungeon-and-Dragons Circle Jerks, but I did get a date.
See also: 15 Simple Rules for Cruising Straight Guys; and Dungeons and Dragons