Awkward Boners

Boners are part of life.  Young men awaken aroused and become aroused again an average of ten times per day.  The frequency decreases as they age and their testosterone production decreases (many guys over 60 won't become aroused at all unless they're actually having sex.)

So why is everyone so surprised and embarrassed when we see a man aroused in public.  Why do we judge them, as if their boner is evidence of low moral character?











There's nothing wrong with becoming aroused.  You can't help it.  And for some of us, seeing a guy aroused is one of the greatest joys in life. 

















But getting a boner in front of the wrong person --  your boss, your Sunday school teacher, your nephew -- might be embarrassing, if they conclude that you are aroused because you want to have sex with them.  Or if you conclude that.


















If you're just coming out as a gay man, and you become aroused in front of a lady, you might wonder "Am I really straight?"

It's never happened to me, of course, but I've heard of it happening to other guys.

Or a straight guy who becomes aroused in front of his buds might wonder "Am I really gay?"

They're not, of course.  Arousal can occur due to any constriction in blood flow due to stress, fear, embarrassment, anger, or just fabric rubbing against the genitals.  Or for no reason at all.
















So don't be afraid of your arousal.  It's unavoidable, it's nearly universal, and it does not necessarily reflect your erotic interests.

And a lot of gay men think it's hot.

See also: Wrestling Bulges.