1. His face
2. His physique
3. His penis
4. His missing arm.
Most people find #4 neutral or even a turn-off, but for a surprising number, it's a big plus, making him infinitely more attractive than guys with four limbs.
The absence makes the whole body stand out in vivid detail, drawing our attention to every muscle.
The lack of symmetry brings a pleasant dissonance, like a minor chord in music.
We're not supposed to look, not supposed to notice; when looking is forbidden, it becomes erotic.
Most amputee fetishists prefer guys with a single missing limb, a leg or an arm.
Some prefer double missing limbs, two arms, two legs, or one of each.
A smaller but still significant number prefer four missing limbs.
They can be quite specific about how much of
the limb should be missing for optional erotic potential.
Whatever type of missing limb they find preferable, partners are hard to come by.
Although there are nearly 2 million amputees in the U.S., over half are elderly diabetics with a host of medical issues, probably not interested in erotic exploration. Less than half have lost limbs due to accidents.
Another 100,000 people are born with limb loss or limb difference, due to a variety of genetic and prenatal factors.
It works out to about 50,000 gay adult men with missing limbs and no significant medical problems that would preclude dating.
With a combination of prosthetic limbs and innovative mobility techniques, amputees can do everything anyone else can do, including drive a car, swim, and lift weights. There's a guy who goes to my gym who is missing most of an arm, yet has fully defined, symmetrical pecs and shoulders.
Didi (Tracey Ashton), one of the people Earl had wronged ("stole the car of a one-legged girl).
Plus her boyfriend, played by Cameron Clapp, a triple-amputee athlete and motivational speaker (seen here surfing).
The Amputee Coalition offers support groups and assistance to help amputees and their families and friends live to the fullest. One of its activities is the Paddy Rossbach Youth Camp, a traditional summer camp founded in 2000 that has served 790 children with limb loss and limb difference from the U.S., Britain, Australia, Mexico, and Tunisia.
How do amputees feel about fetishists, people who are intensely attracted to them because of missing or reduced limbs?
Some like the attention. Anything that sets you apart from the crowd is a good thing, right?
Most dislike being objectified, reduced to only an amputee, just as guys dislike being sought after simply because they are Asian or black, or have large penises. They want to be desired for their face and physique, their eccentricities and quirks, their accomplishments, their intelligence, their sense of humor, and everything else that makes them unique.
A G-rated version of this article is on Boomer Beefcake and Bonding.